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How to choose a hypnotherapist

In brief
            1. Check the practitioner is on an accredited register overseen by the Professional Standards Authority.
            2. Check they are fully insured to practice.
            3. Check if they have a current, DBS check.
            4. Ask if they use the same scripts for all their clients, or offer a bespoke treatment plan.
            5. Contact several therapists and interview them before you decide on one.
            6. Remember if its not working with this one, find another.

No surprises here, but not all hypnotherapists are the same. Sifting through the numbers of therapies and therapists available can be just as hard as dealing with an issue. Here I offer some pointers to make life a little easier in the choosing.

The NHS

The National Health Service recognises the benefits that hypnotherapy can bring to a variety of patients. Their advice is for all patients to ensure that the therapist they choose is part of an accredited register. What does that mean?

Here are two relevant examples of what this means. Doctors are registered with the General Medical Council (GMC) and Nurses with the Nursing and Midwifery Council (NMC). Both these registers are overseen by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA) ensuring the public of the highest professional, educational standards and technical competency in their respective areas of expertise.

Accredited Register

As a Cognitive Hypnotherapist in clinical practice, I am registered with and accountable to the Complementary and Natural Healthcare Council (CNHC). An accredited register over seen by, you guessed it, the Professional Standards Authority.

Finding your healthcare professional through an accredited register assures you peace of mind knowing they are vetted. They have undergone professional & educational training & achieved technical competence in their field.

If in the highly unlikely event that you need to make a complaint, there is a Statutory Body that you can contact; the Professional Standards Authority.

Insurance & DBS

Checking that the practitioner holds current professional and liability insurance is also a good thing to do.
Is it important to you that the professional you engage has no current criminal convictions or allegations of inappropriate behaviour? If it is you could also ensure the practitioner has a current DBS check in place.

I am also registered with the Nursing and Midwifery Council as a Registered Nurse and Specialist Practitioner, that means I have a current and clear DBS.

Bespoke or Scripted

Some practitioners are trained in the use of scripts. And they have a place. Here is an example of how this works.

Client A attends a therapy session to deal with anxiety. The therapist picks script number 36 entitled ‘Anxiety’. The therapist reads the script, and the client leaves. The client may attend a follow up session.

Client B attends a therapy session to deal with anxiety. The therapist picks script number 36 entitled ‘Anxiety’. The therapist reads the script, and the client leaves. The client may attend a follow up session.

In my clinical practice as a Cognitive Hypnotherapist no two clients are treated in the same way. Although client A and B may share the same diagnosis, they experience their symptoms and effects of anxiety in a unique way. 

So, I believe that treatment should be unique, bespoke, and tailored to the individual. I do use scripts, but they are written for each and every client individually. And only as part of a programme of treatment.

Shop around

Contact several therapists before you decide to commit to one. Please always remember, if the therapeutic relationship is not working, you can end the contract and find another therapist at any time. 

In brief

  1. Check the practitioner is on an accredited register overseen by the Professional Standards Authority.
  2. Check they are fully insured to practice.
  3. Check if they have a current, DBS check.
  4. Ask if they use the same scripts for all their clients, or offer a bespoke treatment plan.
  5. Contact several therapists and interview them before you decide on one.
  6. Remember if its not working with this one, find another.

No surprises here, but not all hypnotherapists are the same. Sifting through the numbers of therapies and therapists available can be just as hard as dealing with an issue. Here I offer some pointers to make life a little easier in the choosing.

The NHS

The National Health Service recognises the benefits that hypnotherapy can bring to a variety of patients. Their advice is for all patients to ensure that the therapist they choose is part of an accredited register. What does that mean?

Here are two relevant examples of what this means. Doctors are registered with the General Medical Council (GMC) and Nurses with the Nursing and Midwifery Council (NMC). Both these registers are overseen by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA) ensuring the public of the highest professional, educational standards and technical competency in their respective areas of expertise.

Accredited Register

As a Cognitive Hypnotherapist in clinical practice, I am registered with and accountable to the Complementary and Natural Healthcare Council (CNHC). An accredited register over seen by, you guessed it, the Professional Standards Authority.

Finding your healthcare professional through an accredited register assures you peace of mind knowing they are vetted. They have undergone professional & educational training & achieved technical competence in their field.

If in the highly unlikely event that you need to make a complaint, there is a Statutory Body that you can contact; the Professional Standards Authority.

Insurance & DBS

Checking that the practitioner holds current professional and liability insurance is also a good thing to do.
Is it important to you that the professional you engage has no current criminal convictions or allegations of inappropriate behaviour? If it is you could also ensure the practitioner has a current DBS check in place.

I am also registered with the Nursing and Midwifery Council as a Registered Nurse and Specialist Practitioner, that means I have a current and clear DBS.

Bespoke or Scripted

Some practitioners are trained in the use of scripts. And they have a place. Here is an example of how this works.

Client A attends a therapy session to deal with anxiety. The therapist picks script number 36 entitled ‘Anxiety’. The therapist reads the script, and the client leaves. The client may attend a follow up session.

Client B attends a therapy session to deal with anxiety. The therapist picks script number 36 entitled ‘Anxiety’. The therapist reads the script, and the client leaves. The client may attend a follow up session.

In my clinical practice as a Cognitive Hypnotherapist no two clients are treated in the same way. Although client A and B may share the same diagnosis, they experience their symptoms and effects of anxiety in a unique way. 

So, I believe that treatment should be unique, bespoke, and tailored to the individual. I do use scripts, but they are written for each and every client individually. And only as part of a programme of treatment.

Shop around

Contact several therapists before you decide to commit to one. Please always remember, if the therapeutic relationship is not working, you can end the contract and find another therapist at any time. 

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How to identify a problem

There are times in life when we are so very clear about our problems, and we know the solution, and we immediately take the steps to rectify the problem.

Then there are the times that we know we have a problem, but just can’t seem to put my finger on what it is? How do I go about rectifying this elusive, hidden, mysterious culprit?

I would suggest we tackle this in the same way as example one.

Acknowledgement

First, we acknowledge that there is a problem. I hear your chuckles. Its true, we need to acknowledge there is a problem.

You see often we ignore it, tell our selves I’m making it up, everything is wonderful. I have a nice house, good job, loving partner, children, dog, or a guinea-pig. I may have every marker of societal success and live in abundance.

Yet, I have this niggling voice/feeling/intuition or sense of emptiness that tells me all is not well.

There is nothing wrong with you, this is a truly human experience, common to us all. While the label is common, its effects are unique to me or you.

Observation

Observe what I can about this niggling voice/feeling/intuition or sense of emptiness. When do I hear it most? Where do I feel/sense it most in my body? When do I know it is finished its monologue? Observe and gather as much information about this mysterious problem as you can. This information is really important in developing your change strategy. What are its unique markers that let me know that it is the culprit?

Non-resistance

Some people may use the term acceptance, and if this suits you then use it. I prefer the term non-resistance as it cultivates the image of me being the observer, watching, not interfering or fighting against anything. It gives me the image of not wasting energy on something that is a negative in my life. Observing in a state of non-resistance permits me to see something as it is. A thought.

Clarity

Often this process of acknowledgement, observation and non-resistance is enough for me to gain clarity of what the problem is: where it resides, what it looks like and the results of having it. Now, is the time to identify what I don’t like about the problem, what I would like instead. There are times when identifying what the problem is, is not the solution. Sometimes our clarity moment has us realise that I need to cultivate a different patter of thinking rather than rectify a specific problem with a name.

Plan & Action

Although I will help and guide you throughout the process, it is here where I help you most. When you have identified and named your solution, I open my therapeutic tool box and shine my therapeutic torch in the direction I discern will be the safest, least painful, and most effect road to affect your change. I will guide and direct you, but you will be doing all the work.

You see, you have the answers, treatments, strengths and ability within you for self-healing and problem solving. Sometimes, we need another person to hold the torch while we work with both hands.

Do you want to be a Rainbow Warrior?

Rainbows & Rivers

Do you love looking at a rainbow after the rain? My privileged lucky friend, recently saw a triple rainbow over a river.

Rainbows create excitement and possibilities. Just by bringing forward to the conscious mind, absurd (yet it could be true) mythological question of: I wonder if there is a pot of gold near here?

These majestic multicoloured phenomena are represented everywhere in human culture. Tribes like the Zuni of New Mexico, the Hopi, the Cherokee, the Cree, all have representations of the rainbow in their art and mythology.

Eyes of Fire

What grabbed my attention about the rainbow recently was a Cree story and prophecy by an old woman called ‘Eyes of Fire.’

Eyes of Fire prophesied that because of human greed the earth would get sick, and the animals and fish would die. When these things begin to happen, a new type of conscious human being will emerge bringing hope.

This new conscious human will be the keepers of legends, stories, culture, and rituals. Witches, warlocks, priests, shamans, pastors and druids are a few we could name. They would be called Rainbow Warriors. She predicted that the ancient customs and knowledge, although now out of scientific fashion, would be needed to heal the earth. Tools of the conscious human Rainbow Warriors

Rainbow Warrior

The Rainbow Warriors are the key element to heal and renew and ensure mankind and the earths survival.

Asking if our myths and prophecies are true or not, for me, is missing the point of the lessons they are trying to teach us.

Like a rainbow warrior, I want to learn my legends, understand my rituals, and use all of my resources to know myself and the earth intimately. Every tool at my disposal will be used to bring about a new me, before it’s too late.

Reading today an article about creating a ceremony to say good bye to a dream, an ambition that is dead and is no longer possible, my scream of, ‘No!’ escaped before I could stop myself. A few polite people turned their heads to look at the loud, screaming guy in the corner of the popular coffee shop with free internet.

Dreams

Our dreams and ambitions must be saved and cherished. I want to rekindle my ‘Eyes of Fire’ before I have to bury them. Sitting on my rocking chair way out in my future looking back over my life and I want to say: yes, I really lived.

Recovering in time, I want to reclaim my power and my ambition to live authentically and uniquely and make a real difference.

Do you want to be a Rainbow Warrior?

Human beings are very strong, yet very fragile.

Youth

Beginning at 8 years of age I began the study of Karate-do. At 10 playing rugby. I was always taller than my contemporaries in primary and high school. That since has changed as most of my contemporaries have grown taller than me by several inches.

I was, and am, physically very strong: lots of endurance and a healthy pain threshold. Always coming across as confident and knowledgeable in many areas.

Defence mechanism

But strength and knowledge have always been my defence mechanisms – to hide my true self from too much scrutiny. Just in case someone else rejected me. I was never confident about being me, and never confident in my abilities. I came across as arrogant, aloof, a bit of a know it all. I was really disconnected from those around me.

Gratitude

I did change as I got older, and started working on me. My feelings of gratitude at changing my inner self attitude before the dawn social media is immense. I dread to think what my life would have been like with the added stress of instant, and constant social media.

Social media

Social media is blamed for so many of our modern social ills. Some people with eating disorders, self-harming, social anxiety, or exclusion (sometimes self-imposed): at one time or other in recent history all of these things have been blamed on social media. Sure, I agree there are major differences that today’s social media has introduced to society at a global level. Placing the blame exclusively at its feet though I don’t think is just.

You see for some social media has given a voice that can now be heard. Eyes that can see beyond walls. Technology making the inaccessible accessible to people in isolation.

The Romans

Every generation, I think, has had their own social media. Even the Roman’s had it. There are guys boasting about how many sexual conquests they had. Rhymes of undying love. To the messages that two brothers posted on the walls of a friend’s house. Of course, I do mean literally writing on their friend’s wall, because I’m talking about graffiti.

Like social media, Roman graffiti influenced the everyday lives of people all over the empire.

I do not want to oversimplify or trivialise the effects of social media on society and how we live, as it is a complex phenomenon.

Detrimental effects

What I can confidently say, is that the experience of some of my clients informs me of the real, detrimental effects that social media has had on the very foundations of their personhood. Affecting not only how they see themselves in terms of body image, and social acceptability, but also in how they experience themselves through the media of others media pages and posts.

Clients with issues related to social media feel they have to constantly present themselves as always beautiful, always accessible, always with it, always strong. And, like our beautiful photo above of the pile of stones, always ready to crash down if someone either deliberately or accidently knocks the stack over. This constant stress results often in generalised anxiety, panic attacks, and if chronic over time, can lead to depression and sometimes complete social reclusion.

In learning the source of our anxiety, we can relearn its original intention for us. And that means we can change its hold on us. We can be free again.

Who is living you?

There are multiple reasons why this is important, one stands out above the rest. If I am so taken up with living my life through the media lens of other people’s media, who is actually living, me? I want to help people live their life, not someone else’s version of their life.

Never stop being you.

Everything you want to know about happiness

Happiness, is a universal goal.

There are whole industries dedicated to our happiness. The biggest perhaps is marketing.

If you buy this car, wear this aftershave, you wear these clothes, and you’ll be very happy. The marketing industry plays on this universal search within the human soul/psyche, and offers an attractive solution.

Then there’s money. I remember an advert; I think from the early 1990s. A gentleman is sending money to Jamaica. And, the person behind the counter says, ‘Oh, of course money can’t buy you happiness.’ However, the little old lady, who received the money says in response, ‘but it can sure put a smile on your face.’

The Sweet Spot

There is a sweet spot, according to the research anyway, of between £46,000 and £73,000, being optimum income for happiness, and putting a smile on our face.

Happiness can be described as a combination of a high state of wellbeing, living a good life (according to our own standards), with a profound sense of purpose and meaning in life and a deep contentment.

And of course, we know the benefits of happiness; a longer life, better cardiovascular health, lower blood pressure, reduced inflammatory response. And of course, our psychological and mental health, are improved a thousand-fold.

A significant number of people rank happiness higher than; increasing their wealth, having more material things, or even getting into heaven!

Early philosophers and historians, and present research, agree the foundational principle that leads to happiness is Freedom.

Freedom leads to happiness.

Some of the least happy places in the world have little or no; political freedom, financial freedom, economic freedom, gender or racial equality, freedom of sexual orientation, movement or travel. How does freedom create happiness if we have no control over these?

Remember a moment where you felt completely out of control of your thoughts or behaviours. Remember doing things that you really didn’t want to do, but you did anyway. What about times where you make the same, recurrent inappropriate choices over and over and over again.

Even when we know that these choices, attitudes, habits and behaviours result in harming us, we do them anyway. This is not an excuse, we are being hijacked by our unconscious mind. We are we living and reacting a highly embedded complex programme. When the unconscious minds recognise similarities from a past event, it hijacks us and takes control.

Unconscious protection

These negative thoughts, attitudes, behaviours, and habits, all originate from a positive intention. An unconscious positive intention that the unconscious mind thinks is going to protect us.

Understanding this, is the beginning of our exploration of our unconscious programming, resulting in our rewriting the code for ourselves.

I lead and help people to achieve freedom using a variety of techniques and targeted therapeutic interventions.

Freedom from all of these things that hold them back. From self-sabotaging and limiting beliefs, feelings of inferiority, deliberately avoiding success, always choosing to be second best, inexplicable feelings of shame or guilt.

Free to smile

I help people gain freedom in their relationships and within themselves. I help people to be free from unrealistic expectations, free to forgive. Freedom to smile and laugh more.

If you are thinking that something, is amiss, or your intuition is telling you there’s something not right: I can probably help you to reach freedom.

Remember, freedom is the foundation to being happy.

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It’s like something takes over me

Triggers

We normally live, rational and self-disciplined lives, in general. We do the things we have to do on a daily basis, and then meet the surprise challenges that live throughs at us sometimes. Yet somethings just seem to completely take us over with the slightest trigger

For me it’s driving. I am a mild mannered, gentle, romantic, and peaceful guy: 95% of the time. Put me behind the wheel of a car and I would suddenly become the green skinned character from a famous comic strip and movie franchise.

It seemed to me that every other driver was out to deliberately slow me down, get in my way, or just simply out for the day to harass me. None of it true in any way what so ever. But try telling that to my unconscious mind.

Positive intentions

I am no longer like this when I drive. At least not all the time. You see I discovered like so many of these types of out of character behaviours that we experience they all begin from a positive intention of the unconscious mind.

Crazy I know, but I think its true. Phobias, some anger, fears, anxiety, depression even additive behaviours all the things that we don’t really feel in control of.


Our unconscious mind cultivates, practices and repeats those actions, behaviours and thoughts that in the past it thinks has protected us from some harm, real or imagined. The unconscious continues guiding us in the same negative ways even when they no longer serve, because genuinely believes it is protecting us.


So, you see, you are correct in thinking that you are not really in control of the behaviours that you want to change. Our unconscious mind hijacks our conscious mind and has us do what we have always done in the past. Irrespective of the strength of my will power.

Change

Knowing this means you can finally begin to change the things that you want to. We can change our perceived problems and transform them into something as light as a balloon and gently and playfully blow them away.

Health for both mind and body comes from not mourning over the past, not worrying about the future, but to live the present moment wisely. (Buddha) With Cognitive Hypnotherapy I use the tools, words, and trance states that you use in your every day present, to bypass your unconscious mind and help you achieve what you want to achieve. Every programme I write and deliver is unique to each client, truly tailor made and bespoke.

Unique

Why? Because there is no one in all of human history, or in this present moment, or in all of our cosmic future, anyone like you. That’s why you deserve to have a programme that is just for you. Ready to get started?